Suicide Statistics 

The Interior Health region, which includes the North Okanagan, has one of the highest suicide rates in B.C. According to the BC Coroners Services 131 people from the Interior Health region died by suicide in 2018. The death of one individual can be felt throughout the community and impact many others.

*Stats may be underreported due to many factors.

Twelve a Day

Every day, approximately 12 Canadians die by suicide, while 200 more attempt to take their own life. Often guilt, fear and shame keep many individuals in the shadows when talking about mental health challenges, including suicide.

Young Canadians.

Suicide is the second leading cause of death for Canadians under the age of 35. This tragic statistic underscores the urgent need for compassionate conversation. It’s important to foster open conversations about mental health and encourage individuals to seek help without stigma or shame. Friends and family members can play a crucial role by being supportive, listening without judgment, and helping loved ones access professional resources when needed.

Additionally, promoting self-care practices, such as regular physical activity, healthy eating, mindfulness, and maintaining social connections, can contribute to overall well-being. By working together, we can create a society where every individual feels valued, supported, and empowered to seek the help they need, ultimately reducing the incidence of suicide and improving the quality of life for all.

Men.

According to the Government of Canada, Men die from suicide at a rate up to three times higher than women. This alarming statistic highlights the urgent need for targeted mental health interventions and support systems specifically tailored for men. Societal expectations and cultural norms often discourage men from expressing their emotions or seeking help, leading to a dangerous buildup of untreated mental health issues.

Encouraging open conversations about mental health and promoting emotional resilience can play a vital role in creating a more supportive environment where men feel empowered to seek the help they need. By fostering a culture of empathy and understanding, we can work towards reducing the rate of suicide among men and improving overall mental well-being for everyone.

Women.

According to the Government of Canada, women attempt suicide up to 3 times more often than men. This stark statistic underscores the urgent need for comprehensive mental health support and intervention strategies tailored specifically for women. It is crucial to understand the underlying factors contributing to this disparity, which may include societal pressures, gender-based violence, economic hardships, and mental health stigma.

Furthermore, it is essential to recognize and address the unique challenges faced by various subgroups within the female population, such as women of color, LGBTQ+ women, and those in rural or underserved areas. By fostering a more inclusive and supportive environment, we can work towards reducing the rate of suicide attempts among women and promoting overall mental well-being for all.

Please join us on World Suicide Prevention Day and send a message of hope and support to the women in our lives and around the world.

Talk About Suicide.

Hope, help & healing starts with compassionate conversation. Help us change the narrative on suicide and normalize conversation about suicide.

It will save lives.

By becoming a safe space where people feel safe to share their struggles, we can break down the barriers of stigma and silence. Every heartfelt discussion has the potential to provide comfort, understanding, and reassurance to someone in need. It’s about listening without judgment, offering support within your abilities, and showing that nobody has to face their darkest moments alone. Together, we can create a community of care where every voice is heard and every life is valued. Let’s be the change we wish to see and inspire hope, one conversation at a time.

Why We Are Changing the Narrative on Suicide.

More than one in ten individuals have contemplated suicide at some point in their lives. In a large group, there are numerous individuals who understand the turmoil of contemplating the taking of their own life.

Nearly one in five people have formulated a plan for suicide, so making a safety plan crucial at this stage. If you are contemplating suicide, please seek assistance and access our Safety Plan Template Here.

An estimated 1,271,757 Canadians currently alive have survived suicide attempts. By engaging in empathetic discussions, we can prevent a significant number of suicide attempts and promote healing instead.

Our Indigenous relations, our fellow humans.

Indigenous communities in Canada are considered among the most at risk for of suicide populations in the country.. The lasting effects of colonialism have inflicted significant harm, persisting in various ways to this day. Indigenous communities are forced to bear this legacy, leading some to tragically end their lives rather than endure ongoing systemic injustices and societal issues.

The Royal Commission on Aboriginal Peoples (RCAP) 1995 said,  “… the commission emphasized that other factors had greater bearing on Indigenous suicides, including (1) situational (e.g., disruptions of family life experienced as a result of enforced attendance at boarding schools, adoption, and fly-out hospitalizations), (2) socioeconomic (e.g., poverty, low levels of education, limited employment opportunities, inadequate housing, and deficiencies in sanitation and water quality), and (3) cultural stress (e.g., loss of land and control over living conditions, suppression of belief systems and spirituality, weakening of social and political institutions, and racial discrimination).”

However, amidst these overwhelming challenges to Indigenous Peoples’ existence, there is also a profound strength and resilience within Indigenous communities. Efforts to revitalize traditional languages, cultural practices, and autonomous governance systems are gaining momentum. Indigenous Peoples’ critical contributions to responsible ecosystems management which are essential in this era of climate change. Examples include Syilx Okanagan led return of the Okanagan Salmon.  Organizations and activists are earnestly advocating for the rights and freedoms of Indigenous peoples. Collaborative initiatives between Indigenous and non-Indigenous communities are paving the way for reconciliation and mutual understanding.

The journey towards healing and justice is ongoing, but the unwavering spirit of Indigenous peoples continues to awe and embolden us to affirm our unity with Indigenous Peoples for a brighter and more equitable future.  We hasten the Government of Canada to act on The Truth and Reconciliation (TRC) Commission of Canada’s Calls to Action (2015).

Indigenous Suicide Intervention Resources.

Aboriginal Child and Family Services – Vernon: 250-549-5533

KUU-US Crisis Lines:

Adult/Elder Line: 250-723-4050

Child/Youth Line: 250-723-2040

BC Wide Toll Free: 1-800-KUU-US17 (1-800-588-8717)

Métis Crisis Line: 1-833-MétisBC (1-833-638-4722)

The Indian Residential School Survivors Society Crisis line: 1 (800) 721-0066

Kuu-us Crisis Line Society: 1 800 588 8717 (KUU-US17) 24/7

More Information:

Jeffrey Ansloos, PhD in “Rethinking Indigenous Suicide, 2018″ said, 

“This is a bold and necessary call in Indigenous suicide and prevention research–for us to become emboldened in our critical concern for addressing the complex forms of violence which make life unlivable, and to implicate our life in the pursuit of the type of justice that nourishes Indigenous life.”

“The Truth and Reconciliation (TRC) Commission of Canada’s Calls to Action (2015) specifically address the need for national data on suicide and called for governments to develop mechanisms and indicators to address Indigenous health disparities, including suicide. To date, both calls to action on suicide have not been acted on (CBC, 2018; See Table 1).”

Shifting perspectives on what the land is.

“Land is a determinant of health for Indigenous peoples.”

Retrieved Aug 22, 2024 from  https://www.thelancet.com/journals/lanplh/article/PIIS2542-5196(23)00079-7/fulltext

In Okanagan the land is called,” tmxʷulaxʷ = Mother Earth

” The Syilx Okanagan concept of land encompasses more than the physical geography of place, it includes the spiritual connections of everything living on and within it.” Retrieved from on Aug 22, 2024: https://syilx.org/natural-resources/land/

Sacred Mother Earth in Blackfoot its called “Na to wa siin Na twiisk kaa koo.” Retrieved from Siksika Elder: Robin BigSnake Aug 22, 2024

Due to stigma surrounding suicide, many people do not reach out for help when they need it most.

That is why it is important to look out for warning signs and symptoms and act accordingly. Never be afraid to ask someone if they are thinking about suicide.  

Warning Signs

• Changes in weight or appetite
• Changes in mood 
• Changes in sleeping patterns 
• Changes in appearance 
• Anxiety 
• Talking about death and dying 
• Disengagement from people and activities that once brought joy 
• Hopelessness 
• Helplessness 

Tips on Starting the Conversation  

Know your resources: Be familiar with the local resources in your community. This can include mental health organizations, crisis lines or support groups. Never assume you know what resources work best. Everyone’s story is different. Go into the conversation with these resources in hand.  

Create a safe environment: If possible, try to find a private and comfortable space. Take cues from the person on physical proximity and eye contact. Ask them to sit down if it makes them comfortable. Ask if they want something to help comfort them such as a hot cup of tea. Remove all distractions such as your phone or computer.

Ask open-ended questions: Asking open-ended questions can get the conversation going and allows them to speak more openly about their story.  

Practice active listening and empathy: Refrain from problem-solving for them. Let the individual be at the center of their wellbeing journey. Show them they are being heard by using verbal and non-verbal communication such as nodding your head or saying, “uh huh”. Refrain from trying to look for the positive. Instead focus on their feelings. You can say things like “that sounds like it was really hard for you” or “it sounds like you are upset because…” 

Tips on Asking About Suicide 

Ask directly: Asking the person about suicide will give them the chance to talk about how they are feeling. Avoid asking leading or judgmental questions such as “you aren’t really going to kill yourself, are you?”. Asking directly shows you are comfortable with discussing suicide and can result in less confusion. Using words like “hurting yourself” or “harming yourself” can be interpreted as self-harm or minimize what they are feeling. Statements you can say include “are you thinking about suicide?” or “people who feel like that sometimes are thinking about suicide. Are you having thoughts of suicide?”

Be there for the individual: Give them time to respond. This may have been the first time someone asked them about suicide. Lean into the conversation and show that you care. Do not commit to anything you are not willing or able to do. Do not make any promises about the future. Do not promise to keep it a secret.  

Keep them safe: Ask them if they have a plan for suicide; and if so, work on ways to dismantle that plan. It is important to find out a few things to make sure they are safe for the moment. This includes asking if they have already done something to try and kill themselves, if they have a specific plan and details of that plan and work on ways to disable it. This may include taking them to the hospital or calling the police for a wellness check.  

Be the bridge: It is not your responsibility to solve their problems. Helping someone with thoughts of suicide often includes connecting them with supports that can help. This can be a safety net for times when they find themselves in a crisis. It also ensures you do not get burnt out. Ask them if there are any resources they would like to explore or if they already have some. One way to start is to help develop a safety plan. This can include them identifying ways they can keep safe, who to contact when they are in a crisis and always make sure to include a 24/7 resource. Remember to let them be at the center of their wellbeing.  

Follow up: After you have connected the individual to resources connect with them to see how they are doing. Send a text message or call to see how they are doing. Checking in with them shows them you are there to support them when they need it.

Educate yourself: Suicide is preventable. Education is an essential preventative measure. Many individuals might not recognize symptoms of suicide or know what to do when in a crisis. Help create a suicide safer community by educating yourself on suicide prevention and awareness, so you are ready to have the conversation with someone.

The Canadian Mental Health Association – Vernon & District offers a variety of workshops on suicide prevention and awareness. Contact us at 250-542-3114 or [email protected] for more information. 

Ways to Help

• Talk to family and friends about suicide
• Don’t be afraid to ask someone if they are thinking about suicide 
• Educate yourself on suicide prevention and awareness 
• Donate to local organizations, such as the Interior Crisis Line  
• Talk to mental health organizations on how to get involved 
• Help reduce the stigma by starting a conversation about suicide prevention with family and friends 
• Share credible resources on social media  
• Familiarize yourself with local resources  
• Volunteer for the Crisis Line: Click Here.

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Crisis Lines: 

National Suicide Crisis Help Line: Call or Text 9-8-8 (24-7 English and French) 

Counselling/Support: 

Child and Family Services – Vernon: 250-549-5404 

Mental Health and Substance Use Services – Vernon: 250-549-5737 

Vernon Family Resource Centre: 250-545-3390 

Vernon & District Immigrant & Community Services Society: (250) 542-4177

CMHA’s Suicide Grief Support Group 

Immediate Support/Walk-in:  

Vernon Community Response Team: 250-260-7893 

Vernon Jubilee Hospital: (250) 545-2211 

Indigenous: 

Aboriginal Child and Family Services – Vernon: 250-549-5533

KUU-US Crisis Lines:

Adult/Elder Line: 250-723-4050

Child/Youth Line: 250-723-2040

BC Wide Toll Free: 1-800-KUU-US17 (1-800-588-8717)

Métis Crisis Line: 1-833-MétisBC (1-833-638-4722)

The Indian Residential School Survivors Society Crisis line: 1 (800) 721-0066

Kuu-us Crisis Line Society: 1 800 588 8717 (KUU-US17) 24/7

LGBTQ+: 

The Lifeline Canada

Trans Life Line

CMHA’s Trans Peer Support Group

Survivor Support:

Suicide Support Group: [email protected] 

Okanagan Suicide Awareness Society – Kelowna: 250-300-7990

Data Source: CASP, Canadian Association for Suicide Prevention.

Click here for more and access to the CASP WSPD Tool Kit

The following is a list of National and BC Suicide Prevention and Life Promotion Initiatives. It is not a comprehensive list, and was compiled as a resource for exploration, discussion and potential action relating to suicide prevention and life promotion efforts.

National & Provincial Suicide Prevention and Life Promotion Initiatives:

Government of Canada

National Suicide Prevention Action Plan (2024 to 2027)

National Aboriginal Youth Suicide Prevention Strategy (NAYSPS) Program Framework

Canadian Association for Suicide Prevention

The Case for a National Strategy and Nationwide Hotline

The Canadian Mental Health Association & Centre for Suicide Prevention

CMHA Statement on National Suicide Prevention Action Plan

BC Government

Vision for mental health and addictions care

Improving Suicide Care in BC

A Pathway to Hope. Progress Report

Canadian Association for Suicide Prevention

About Life Promotion

Healthcare Excellence Canada

The Promoting Life Together Collaborative

Thunderbird Partnership Foundation

First Nations Mental Wellness Continuum Framework

Wise Practices

Action Guide for Communities

Changing the narrative through our lived experiences.

Storytelling is perhaps the most effective method of sharing information, a practice passed down by our ancestors for generations to guide each subsequent one. The power of story telling is undeniable and our aim is not only to help saves lives but to help empower others to do the same. The people who have bravely shared their story with us are survivors of a suicide attempt, have overcome suicidal thoughts or have been deeply impacted by a suicide. Their desire is to aid in saving lives and preventing the pain of loss to a suicide.

Through these stories we encourage a greater awareness and understanding in the face of stigma surrounding suicide. Together, we can change the narrative around suicide, offering much-needed compassion that has the potential to save lives.

My Friend Brandon.

Author: Anonymous.

My friend Brandon was a wild child, a boy born in the country, raised on farm fresh food, taught to work hard, and allowed to play even harder. His Mom was friends with my Mom and in the small community we grew up in everyone knew just about everything there was to know about each other. He was blonde, handsome, and usually wailing past you faster than he should have been on a motorized vehicle of some sort hooting and hollering. Brandon was a few years older than me, which meant he was a childhood crush for me, and a hello or a smile from him sent my heart a flutter. He was an all-or-nothing kind of guy.

As we grew older, I watched from a distance as he became more capable at logging work with his family, had girlfriends, and eventually fell in love and had 2 beautiful children. He was the drop everything for a friend in need person you could call at 3 am and he’d be there at your side by 3:05 am ready to help.

One night at a local New Year’s dance in our small community, Brandon was there and didn’t seem his usual self. He was going through some things. I had a slow dance with him and listened to him, reassuring him as best as I could. He drifted off into the crowd that night into a sea of people as we all danced the night away. It was well after midnight when the band stopped, and we all piled into our various rides home and went to sleep that night with music still playing in our heads.

5 am. The phone rings. It’s his Mom calling my mom. Brandon is dead. He was fighting harder than any of us knew and had lost that fight. And now he is gone forever. He decided that night after the dance to end his life, and he was successful.

Broken. The whole town is broken. What about all of the smiles? The hugs? The dancing? We had all gone from 100 to 0 in a matter of hours. Why? He was so strong, so brave, so loving, so handsome, so funny, so… just…everything. Now he was gone. No one knows what to do.

I did. I felt then that I had failed my friend. I was 22 he was only 25. He had been one of my heroes, he was real, he ended as many fights as he started, he got kicked out of class, he built pickup trucks, he opened doors for people, and he gave little kids rides like he did for me when I was younger, on his dirt-bikes. And now, nothing. Gone. Stolen.

I got on a bus a few days later and decided to join my boyfriend who was working out of town and got as far away from the place I grew up in as I could. I moved over 20 hours away for a year. It was the first time I’d been away from all of my friends and family. It was the first time I had lost a friend. It was the first time I had an experience related to suicide. It was a year since he died before I could get the courage to hug his Mom and say how sorry I was. It still upsets me to this day, over 25 years later.

Brandon is still one of my childhood heroes. It still hurts to think of all of the things he will never be, but comforting to have been lucky enough to know and love all of the things he was. Until he wasn’t. To have had, what should never have been, our last dance. Suicide steals from people something you can never get back, you can never replace, and you will probably never heal from. You can learn to live with the pain they gave you, but it doesn’t go away. I wish I had told him all of this while he was alive, instead of sharing it without him after he died. I wish I had gone to his funeral, I wish I was strong enough to stand beside his Mom and hug her while she cried, and I wish he had gotten to see his kids grow up and become amazing people. I bet he wishes that too.

Changing the Narrative: A Man’s Suicide Survival Story.

Author: Logan Rankeillor, a CMHA Vernon employee and suicide survivor.

Let’s Change the Narrative.

I am a middle-aged man dealing with mental illness.

I choose not to conceal this aspect of myself, even if it causes others to avoid and exclude me from their lives. Though it’s painful to realize that some individuals may reject me because of my mental health, they are not the core issue; in fact, they could potentially be part of the solution.

Someone else might throw hurtful insults my way, attempting to crush what is left of my spirit, and while it would be extremely painful, nobody can be as toxic and hurtful as I am to myself. The trolls don’t have the power to affect me so deeply.

I often see the term Fragile Masculinity used as a way to emasculate and minimize the emotions that men feel, though that was not the original intention of the term.

Men!

Let’s reclaim this term and normalize the idea that men can be vulnerable and are indeed emotional beings who sometimes require assistance to manage their feelings. This should not diminish our self-worth, ever.

Repeat after me:

I am a man; I am vulnerable enough to be fragile; and when I am, it’s okay to seek help.

Asking for help is a sign of strength; it empowers one to become more capable of self-help and improves well-being. Concealing emotions prevents others from understanding you, hindering their ability to offer support and their ability to get to know the real you.

Distance yourself from those who cling to the notion that men must always appear strong and stay silent when they are struggling. This harmful stigma is contributing to a significantly higher rate of suicide among men compared to women.

I am still working on myself, a journey that I believe will be lifelong. There was a time when I felt so low that I was willing to die. The most challenging step I took was reaching out for help, a task that shouldn’t have been so difficult. I still hold onto the belief that, as a man, I must always display toughness and strength. I hope to let go of such unrealistic self-expectations.

I have compassion for my brothers worldwide who silently endure suffering, yet I find it challenging to show myself the same level of compassion. Recognizing my care for others, I understand the importance of extending that same care to myself, which is something I need learn to prioritize.

Three years ago, my mental health journey was nearly over; however, I discovered the courage to seek assistance. Fortunately, I received effective support, from CMHA Vernon and the Crisis Line. Thanks to the help they offered, I continue on this journey today and for the foreseeable future.

Strength truly lies in accepting your weaknesses and borrowing strength from others when you feel too weak to carry on.

To all my brothers and sisters around the world.

All of us are fragile and need help; there is no shame in that.

Ultimately, we are only human.

Please follow the guidelines below to wright your story.

Guidelines for Sharing Experiences with Suicide

Please fill out the form Below to submit your story.

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On September 10, World Suicide Prevention Day focuses on saving lives, changing the narrative on suicide, and demonstrating solidarity with one another. Please share or repost this message on your social media platforms to raise awareness; there is always hope for healing in the face of suicide. Join individuals worldwide in honoring those we’ve lost, supporting survivors, and encouraging life-saving discussions.

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9-8-8

CMHA Vernon is a proud partner in 9-8-8 Suicide Crisis Helpline.
9-8-8 is a new national helpline for anyone across Canada who is thinking about suicide, or who is worried about someone they know. Call or text 9-8-8 toll-free, anytime for support in English and French. 9-8-8 responders are here to listen and provide help without judgement.

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Suicide Grief Support Group

Coping with a loss to suicide can be overwhelming, leading to a wide variety of emotions and physical symptoms. Our Suicide Grief Support Group provides a safe space to share experiences, address feelings of guilt and anger, navigate family dynamics, and honor the departed. The suicide grief support groups are facilitated by CMHA staff and volunteers who have received specialized training in suicide grief support.

If you are interested in joining our next Suicide Grief Support Group, please get in touch with us by email at [email protected] or, visit the following link for more: cmhavernon.ca/suicide-grief-support/

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Youth Suicide Greif Support Group

Support for suicide loss: Youth Suicide Grief Support Group uses a peer support model to help support individuals grieving a suicide loss, fostering resilience through shared experiences.

If you are interested in joining our next Youth Suicide Grief Support Group, please get in touch with us by email at [email protected] or, visit the following link for more: cmhavernon.ca/youth-wellness-and-education/#youth-services|6

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Twelve a Day

According to the Government of Canada, about 12 individuals lose their lives to suicide daily, with roughly 200 more attempting suicide. Over the next year, an estimated 4,500 Canadians will succumb to suicide, while 73,000 will attempt to take their own lives. It is believed that for each suicide, an average of 10 people are significantly impacted, placing an additional 45,000 individuals per year in one of the most vulnerable suicide risk categories – those who have experienced the loss of a cherished one to suicide. By engaging in compassionate conversation and reaching out to those in need, we can encourage individuals to seek assistance, promote recovery, and instill hope for the future. Let’s work together to reduce these numbers to less than one per day.

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Women

According to the Government of Canada, women attempt suicide up to 3 times more often than men. This stark statistic underscores the urgent need for comprehensive mental health support and intervention strategies tailored specifically for women. It is crucial to understand the underlying factors contributing to this disparity, which may include societal pressures, gender-based violence, economic hardships, and mental health stigma.

Furthermore, it is essential to recognize and address the unique challenges faced by various subgroups within the female population, such as women of color, LGBTQ+ women, and those in rural or underserved areas. By fostering a more inclusive and supportive environment, we can work towards reducing the rate of suicide attempts among women and promoting overall mental well-being for all.

Please join us on World Suicide Prevention Day and send a message of hope and support to the women in our lives and around the world.

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Men.

According to the Government of Canada, Men die from suicide at a rate up to three times higher than women. This alarming statistic highlights the urgent need for targeted mental health interventions and support systems specifically tailored for men. Societal expectations and cultural norms often discourage men from expressing their emotions or seeking help, leading to a dangerous buildup of untreated mental health issues.

Encouraging open conversations about mental health and promoting healing can play a vital role in creating a more supportive environment where men feel empowered to seek the help they need. By fostering a culture of empathy and understanding, we can work towards reducing the rate of suicide among men and improving overall mental well-being for everyone.

Lets change the narrative on suicide.

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Young Canadians.

Suicide is the second highest rate of death for Canadians under the age of 35. This tragic statistic underscores the urgent need for compassionate conversation. It’s important to foster open conversations about mental health and encourage individuals to seek help without stigma or shame. Friends and family members can play a crucial role by being supportive, listening without judgment, and helping those at risk access professional resources when needed.

Additionally, promoting self-care practices, such as regular physical activity, healthy eating, mindfulness, and maintaining social connections, can contribute to overall well-being. By working together, we can create a society where every individual feels valued, supported, and empowered to seek the help they need, ultimately reducing the incidence of suicide and improving the quality of life for all.

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2SLGBTQI+ Youth

Suicide is more frequent among 2SLGBTQI+youth in comparison to their non- LGBTQ peers.

This alarming statistic underscores the urgent need for supportive environments and mental health resources tailored to the unique challenges faced by 2SLGBTQI+ youth. Factors such as discrimination, family rejection, and societal stigma contribute significantly to the mental health struggles of these young individuals. By fostering inclusive communities, promoting acceptance, and providing access to affirming mental health care, we can help mitigate these risks and offer hope and healing to 2SLGBTQI+ youth.

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Talk about Suicide.

Hope, Help & Healing Starts with Compassionate Conversation. Help us change the narrative on suicide and normalize conversation about suicide, it will save lives.

By becoming a safe space where people feel safe to share their struggles, we can break down the barriers of stigma and silence. Every heartfelt discussion has the potential to provide comfort, understanding, and reassurance to someone in need. It’s about listening without judgment, offering support within your abilities, and showing that nobody has to face their darkest moments alone. Together, we can create a community of care where every voice is heard and every life is valued. Let’s be the change we wish to see and inspire hope, one conversation at a time.

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Don’t Hesitate to Seek Support.

If you are facing depression or suicidal thoughts, it’s important to reach out for assistance. Asking for help doesn’t indicate weakness; in fact, it shows courage and strength. Don’t wait, confide in someone you trust or contact the 9-8-8 Suicide Crisis Helpline immediately.

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Create a Safety Plan

When dealing with depression or suicidal thoughts, reach out to family, friends, or professionals for support. Establish a safety plan with warning signs, coping strategies, and emergency contacts. Engage in activities that bring joy and consider joining a support group for understanding and community. Be patient with yourself, seek help, and remember your mental health is important.

Download Our Safety Plan Template Here

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Build a Support network.

Reach out to trustworthy individuals for support with depression or suicidal thoughts. Join support groups for connection and mutual encouragement. Prioritize yourself with soothing activities every day; Physical activity, a balanced diet, and enough sleep are vital for mental well-being. Seeking help is a sign of strength, leading to meaningful connections and resources for a brighter future.

To help build and envision your support network please download our Safety Plan Template here.

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Use Your Support network.

Reach out to loved ones or professionals about struggles with depression or suicidal thoughts. Create a safety plan and surround yourself with support. Engage in activities that bring joy, practice mindfulness, and consider therapy. Be patient and celebrate progress.

To help build and envision your support network please download our Safety Plan Template here.

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Risk Assessment: Investigate

Investigate the level of suicidal intent by asking:

• What type of thoughts are you experiencing?
• How long have these thoughts been present?
• How frequently do these thoughts occur?

If the risk is high, provide immediate safety measures, contact emergency services, and seek professional assistance. For concerns of a lesser but significant nature, encourage seeking support. Collaborate on creating a safety plan and emphasize empathy and the availability of support resources.

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Assess the person’s intent to act.

Assess the urgency of suicidal intent by asking about the likelihood of acting on a plan within 24-48 hours. Ask them to rate the likelihood on a scale of 1 to 10. 1 = very unlikely and 10 = certain.

Offer immediate safety if the risk is high, contact emergency services, and seek professional help. Encourage seeking support for lower but serious intent. Create a safety plan together and emphasize empathy and available help.

Determine self- harm vs suicidality

“To differentiate self-harm from suicidal behaviour, ask about their intentions. Was the behaviour (e.g., cutting, burning) done to end the person’s life, to gain relief from emotional distress or to overcome a feeling of numbness?”

Source: CAMH https://www.camh.ca/en/professionals/treating-conditions-and-disorders/suicide-risk/suicide—detecting-and-assessing-suicidality”

It’s crucial to approach these questions with empathy and without judgment. Creating a safe and supportive environment can encourage honest and open communication. Additionally, understanding the underlying reasons for self-harm can help in identifying the most appropriate support and interventions.

Once the intentions are identified, it’s important to offer resources and support. This may include connecting the individual with mental health professionals, providing information about coping strategies, and encouraging the development of a strong support network of friends and family. Self-harm is often a sign of deeper emotional issues that need to be addressed, so ongoing care and compassion are essential in helping the person navigate their feelings and find healthier ways to cope.

Remember, the goal is to help the individual feel heard, supported, and understood, ultimately guiding them towards healing and recovery.

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Safe Language: Attempt

When discussing suicide:

Use: “Suicide attempt.”

Avoid: “Failed attempt.”

Describing an unsuccessful attempt may cause the survivor to feel even more defeated.

Instead, focus on the fact that they survived and the opportunity for recovery and support. Language is powerful, and using compassionate and understanding terms can make a significant difference in someone’s healing journey.

By being mindful of our language, we can create a more supportive and empathetic environment for those affected by suicide.

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Safe Language: Suicide

When discussing suicide:

Use: “Died by suicide, or suicide.”

Avoid: “Completed Suicide.”

Describing a completed suicide may make someone at risk of suicide feel incomplete.

Instead, focus on the fact that they survived and the opportunity for recovery and support. Language is powerful, and using compassionate and understanding terms can make a significant difference in someone’s healing journey.

By being mindful of our language, we can create a more supportive and empathetic environment for those affected by suicide.

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Safe Language: Died

When discussing suicide:

Use: “Died by suicide, or suicide.”

Avoid: “Committed Suicide.”

Saying, committed suicide suggest a crime and may make a person feel like a criminal for having suicidal thoughts.

Instead, focus on the fact that they survived and the opportunity for recovery and support. Language is powerful, and using compassionate and understanding terms can make a significant difference in someone’s healing journey.

By being mindful of our language, we can create a more supportive and empathetic environment for those affected by suicide.

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Safe Language: Unsuccessful

When discussing suicide:

Use: “Suicide attempt.”

Avoid: “Unsuccessful attempt.”

Saying, unsuccessful attempt suggests that someone may be successful with suicide.

Instead, focus on the fact that they have successfully survived and the opportunity for recovery and support. Language is powerful, and using compassionate and understanding terms can make a significant difference in someone’s healing journey.

By being mindful of our language, we can create a more supportive and empathetic environment for those affected by suicide.

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Dispelling Myths: Dissipate

There are numerous misconceptions about suicide that contribute to the stigma associated with the topic. By dispelling myths and fostering understanding and empathy, we can reduce stigma and help save lives.

Myths include the idea that talking about suicide plants the idea, that it’s for attention, and that suicidal individuals cannot be helped. Mental health issues often, but not always underlie suicidal behavior, so promoting awareness and providing support is vital.

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Dispelling Myths: Mental Health

There are numerous misconceptions about suicide that contribute to the stigma associated with the topic. By dispelling myths and fostering understanding and empathy, we can reduce stigma and help save lives.

Myths include the idea that talking about suicide plants the idea, that it’s for attention, and that suicidal individuals cannot be helped. Mental health issues often, but not always underlie suicidal behavior, so promoting awareness and providing support is vital.

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Dispelling Myths: Not Easy

There are numerous misconceptions about suicide that contribute to the stigma associated with the topic. By dispelling myths and fostering understanding and empathy, we can reduce stigma and help save lives.

Myths include the idea that talking about suicide plants the idea, that it’s for attention, and that suicidal individuals cannot be helped. Mental health issues often, but not always underlie suicidal behavior, so promoting awareness and providing support is vital.

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Dispelling Myths: Talking

There are numerous misconceptions about suicide that contribute to the stigma associated with the topic. By dispelling myths and fostering understanding and empathy, we can reduce stigma and help save lives.

Myths include the idea that talking about suicide plants the idea, that it’s for attention, and that suicidal individuals cannot be helped. Mental health issues often, but not always underlie suicidal behavior, so promoting awareness and providing support is vital.

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Dispelling Myths: Warning Signs.

There are numerous misconceptions about suicide that contribute to the stigma associated with the topic. By dispelling myths and fostering understanding and empathy, we can reduce stigma and help save lives.

Myths include the idea that talking about suicide plants the idea, that it’s for attention, and that suicidal individuals cannot be helped. Mental health issues often, but not always underlie suicidal behavior, so promoting awareness and providing support is vital.

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Safety Planning Tool Kit

To provide support, a suicide safety plan can be a valuable tool to ensure someone’s safety during crisis situations. Please refer to the guidelines by the Centre for Suicide Prevention to create your personalized plan.

For a quicker start, feel free to download our template designed for easy access to life-saving information.

Additionally, we offer a pocket-sized plan that can be printed, filled out, folded into three sections, and conveniently kept in your wallet or purse.

If you prefer a professionally printed pocket version, you can reach out to us for the printing directions or talk to the professional printer we utilized for this purpose. Contact us for more information:

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Centre for Suicide Prevention: guideline for creating your own safety plan.

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Download our Safety Plan Template

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Suicide Statistics 

The Interior Health region, which includes the North Okanagan, has one of the highest suicide rates in B.C. According to the BC Coroners Services 131 people from the Interior Health region died by suicide in 2018. The death of one individual can be felt throughout the community and impact many others.

*Stats may be underreported due to many factors.

Twelve a Day

Every day, approximately 12 Canadians die by suicide, while 200 more attempt to take their own life. Often guilt, fear and shame keep many individuals in the shadows when talking about mental health challenges, including suicide.

Young Canadians.

Suicide is the second leading cause of death for Canadians under the age of 35. This tragic statistic underscores the urgent need for compassionate conversation. It’s important to foster open conversations about mental health and encourage individuals to seek help without stigma or shame. Friends and family members can play a crucial role by being supportive, listening without judgment, and helping loved ones access professional resources when needed.

Additionally, promoting self-care practices, such as regular physical activity, healthy eating, mindfulness, and maintaining social connections, can contribute to overall well-being. By working together, we can create a society where every individual feels valued, supported, and empowered to seek the help they need, ultimately reducing the incidence of suicide and improving the quality of life for all.

Men.

According to the Government of Canada, Men die from suicide at a rate up to three times higher than women. This alarming statistic highlights the urgent need for targeted mental health interventions and support systems specifically tailored for men. Societal expectations and cultural norms often discourage men from expressing their emotions or seeking help, leading to a dangerous buildup of untreated mental health issues.

Encouraging open conversations about mental health and promoting emotional resilience can play a vital role in creating a more supportive environment where men feel empowered to seek the help they need. By fostering a culture of empathy and understanding, we can work towards reducing the rate of suicide among men and improving overall mental well-being for everyone.

Women.

According to the Government of Canada, women attempt suicide up to 3 times more often than men. This stark statistic underscores the urgent need for comprehensive mental health support and intervention strategies tailored specifically for women. It is crucial to understand the underlying factors contributing to this disparity, which may include societal pressures, gender-based violence, economic hardships, and mental health stigma.

Furthermore, it is essential to recognize and address the unique challenges faced by various subgroups within the female population, such as women of color, LGBTQ+ women, and those in rural or underserved areas. By fostering a more inclusive and supportive environment, we can work towards reducing the rate of suicide attempts among women and promoting overall mental well-being for all.

Please join us on World Suicide Prevention Day and send a message of hope and support to the women in our lives and around the world.

Talk About Suicide.

Hope, help & healing starts with compassionate conversation. Help us change the narrative on suicide and normalize conversation about suicide.

It will save lives.

By becoming a safe space where people feel safe to share their struggles, we can break down the barriers of stigma and silence. Every heartfelt discussion has the potential to provide comfort, understanding, and reassurance to someone in need. It’s about listening without judgment, offering support within your abilities, and showing that nobody has to face their darkest moments alone. Together, we can create a community of care where every voice is heard and every life is valued. Let’s be the change we wish to see and inspire hope, one conversation at a time.

Why We Are Changing the Narrative on Suicide.

More than one in ten individuals have contemplated suicide at some point in their lives. In a large group, there are numerous individuals who understand the turmoil of contemplating the taking of their own life.

Nearly one in five people have formulated a plan for suicide, so making a safety plan crucial at this stage. If you are contemplating suicide, please seek assistance and access our Safety Plan Template Here.

An estimated 1,271,757 Canadians currently alive have survived suicide attempts. By engaging in empathetic discussions, we can prevent a significant number of suicide attempts and promote healing instead.

Our Indigenous relations, our fellow humans.

Indigenous communities in Canada are considered among the most at risk for of suicide populations in the country.. The lasting effects of colonialism have inflicted significant harm, persisting in various ways to this day. Indigenous communities are forced to bear this legacy, leading some to tragically end their lives rather than endure ongoing systemic injustices and societal issues.

The Royal Commission on Aboriginal Peoples (RCAP) 1995 said,  “… the commission emphasized that other factors had greater bearing on Indigenous suicides, including (1) situational (e.g., disruptions of family life experienced as a result of enforced attendance at boarding schools, adoption, and fly-out hospitalizations), (2) socioeconomic (e.g., poverty, low levels of education, limited employment opportunities, inadequate housing, and deficiencies in sanitation and water quality), and (3) cultural stress (e.g., loss of land and control over living conditions, suppression of belief systems and spirituality, weakening of social and political institutions, and racial discrimination).”

However, amidst these overwhelming challenges to Indigenous Peoples’ existence, there is also a profound strength and resilience within Indigenous communities. Efforts to revitalize traditional languages, cultural practices, and autonomous governance systems are gaining momentum. Indigenous Peoples’ critical contributions to responsible ecosystems management which are essential in this era of climate change. Examples include Syilx Okanagan led return of the Okanagan Salmon.  Organizations and activists are earnestly advocating for the rights and freedoms of Indigenous peoples. Collaborative initiatives between Indigenous and non-Indigenous communities are paving the way for reconciliation and mutual understanding.

The journey towards healing and justice is ongoing, but the unwavering spirit of Indigenous peoples continues to awe and embolden us to affirm our unity with Indigenous Peoples for a brighter and more equitable future.  We hasten the Government of Canada to act on The Truth and Reconciliation (TRC) Commission of Canada’s Calls to Action (2015).

Indigenous Suicide Intervention Resources.

Aboriginal Child and Family Services – Vernon: 250-549-5533

KUU-US Crisis Lines:

Adult/Elder Line: 250-723-4050

Child/Youth Line: 250-723-2040

BC Wide Toll Free: 1-800-KUU-US17 (1-800-588-8717)

Métis Crisis Line: 1-833-MétisBC (1-833-638-4722)

The Indian Residential School Survivors Society Crisis line: 1 (800) 721-0066

Kuu-us Crisis Line Society: 1 800 588 8717 (KUU-US17) 24/7

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Jeffrey Ansloos, PhD in “Rethinking Indigenous Suicide, 2018″ said, 

“This is a bold and necessary call in Indigenous suicide and prevention research–for us to become emboldened in our critical concern for addressing the complex forms of violence which make life unlivable, and to implicate our life in the pursuit of the type of justice that nourishes Indigenous life.”

“The Truth and Reconciliation (TRC) Commission of Canada’s Calls to Action (2015) specifically address the need for national data on suicide and called for governments to develop mechanisms and indicators to address Indigenous health disparities, including suicide. To date, both calls to action on suicide have not been acted on (CBC, 2018; See Table 1).”

Shifting perspectives on what the land is.

“Land is a determinant of health for Indigenous peoples.”

Retrieved Aug 22, 2024 from  https://www.thelancet.com/journals/lanplh/article/PIIS2542-5196(23)00079-7/fulltext

In Okanagan the land is called,” tmxʷulaxʷ = Mother Earth

” The Syilx Okanagan concept of land encompasses more than the physical geography of place, it includes the spiritual connections of everything living on and within it.” Retrieved from on Aug 22, 2024: https://syilx.org/natural-resources/land/

Sacred Mother Earth in Blackfoot its called “Na to wa siin Na twiisk kaa koo.” Retrieved from Siksika Elder: Robin BigSnake Aug 22, 2024

Due to stigma surrounding suicide, many people do not reach out for help when they need it most.

That is why it is important to look out for warning signs and symptoms and act accordingly. Never be afraid to ask someone if they are thinking about suicide.  

Warning Signs

• Changes in weight or appetite
• Changes in mood 
• Changes in sleeping patterns 
• Changes in appearance 
• Anxiety 
• Talking about death and dying 
• Disengagement from people and activities that once brought joy 
• Hopelessness 
• Helplessness 

Tips on Starting the Conversation 

Know your resources: Be familiar with the local resources in your community. This can include mental health organizations, crisis lines or support groups. Never assume you know what resources work best. Everyone’s story is different. Go into the conversation with these resources in hand.  

Create a safe environment: If possible, try to find a private and comfortable space. Take cues from the person on physical proximity and eye contact. Ask them to sit down if it makes them comfortable. Ask if they want something to help comfort them such as a hot cup of tea. Remove all distractions such as your phone or computer.

Ask open-ended questions: Asking open-ended questions can get the conversation going and allows them to speak more openly about their story.  

Practice active listening and empathy: Refrain from problem-solving for them. Let the individual be at the center of their wellbeing journey. Show them they are being heard by using verbal and non-verbal communication such as nodding your head or saying, “uh huh”. Refrain from trying to look for the positive. Instead focus on their feelings. You can say things like “that sounds like it was really hard for you” or “it sounds like you are upset because…” 

Tips on Asking About Suicide 

Ask directly: Asking the person about suicide will give them the chance to talk about how they are feeling. Avoid asking leading or judgmental questions such as “you aren’t really going to kill yourself, are you?”. Asking directly shows you are comfortable with discussing suicide and can result in less confusion. Using words like “hurting yourself” or “harming yourself” can be interpreted as self-harm or minimize what they are feeling. Statements you can say include “are you thinking about suicide?” or “people who feel like that sometimes are thinking about suicide. Are you having thoughts of suicide?”

Be there for the individual: Give them time to respond. This may have been the first time someone asked them about suicide. Lean into the conversation and show that you care. Do not commit to anything you are not willing or able to do. Do not make any promises about the future. Do not promise to keep it a secret.  

Keep them safe: Ask them if they have a plan for suicide; and if so, work on ways to dismantle that plan. It is important to find out a few things to make sure they are safe for the moment. This includes asking if they have already done something to try and kill themselves, if they have a specific plan and details of that plan and work on ways to disable it. This may include taking them to the hospital or calling the police for a wellness check.  

Be the bridge: It is not your responsibility to solve their problems. Helping someone with thoughts of suicide often includes connecting them with supports that can help. This can be a safety net for times when they find themselves in a crisis. It also ensures you do not get burnt out. Ask them if there are any resources they would like to explore or if they already have some. One way to start is to help develop a safety plan. This can include them identifying ways they can keep safe, who to contact when they are in a crisis and always make sure to include a 24/7 resource. Remember to let them be at the center of their wellbeing.  

Follow up: After you have connected the individual to resources connect with them to see how they are doing. Send a text message or call to see how they are doing. Checking in with them shows them you are there to support them when they need it.

Educate yourself: Suicide is preventable. Education is an essential preventative measure. Many individuals might not recognize symptoms of suicide or know what to do when in a crisis. Help create a suicide safer community by educating yourself on suicide prevention and awareness, so you are ready to have the conversation with someone.

The Canadian Mental Health Association – Vernon & District offers a variety of workshops on suicide prevention and awareness. Contact us at 250-542-3114 or [email protected] for more information. 

Ways to Help

• Talk to family and friends about suicide
• Don’t be afraid to ask someone if they are thinking about suicide 
• Educate yourself on suicide prevention and awareness 
• Donate to local organizations, such as the Interior Crisis Line  
• Talk to mental health organizations on how to get involved 
• Help reduce the stigma by starting a conversation about suicide prevention with family and friends 
• Share credible resources on social media  
• Familiarize yourself with local resources  
• Volunteer for the Crisis Line: Click Here.

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Crisis Lines: 

National Suicide Crisis Help Line: Call or Text 9-8-8 (24-7 English and French) 

Counselling/Support: 

Child and Family Services – Vernon: 250-549-5404 

Mental Health and Substance Use Services – Vernon: 250-549-5737 

Vernon Family Resource Centre: 250-545-3390 

Vernon & District Immigrant & Community Services Society: (250) 542-4177

CMHA’s Suicide Grief Support Group 

Immediate Support/Walk-in:  

Vernon Community Response Team: 250-260-7893 

Vernon Jubilee Hospital: (250) 545-2211 

Indigenous: 

Aboriginal Child and Family Services – Vernon: 250-549-5533

KUU-US Crisis Lines:

Adult/Elder Line: 250-723-4050

Child/Youth Line: 250-723-2040

BC Wide Toll Free: 1-800-KUU-US17 (1-800-588-8717)

Métis Crisis Line: 1-833-MétisBC (1-833-638-4722)

The Indian Residential School Survivors Society Crisis line: 1 (800) 721-0066

Kuu-us Crisis Line Society: 1 800 588 8717 (KUU-US17) 24/7

LGBTQ+: 

The Lifeline Canada

Trans Life Line

CMHA’s Trans Peer Support Group

Survivor Support:

Suicide Support Group: [email protected] 

Okanagan Suicide Awareness Society – Kelowna: 250-300-7990

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Data Source: CASP, Canadian Association for Suicide Prevention.

Click here for more and access to the CASP WSPD Tool Kit

The following is a list of National and BC Suicide Prevention and Life Promotion Initiatives. It is not a comprehensive list, and was compiled as a resource for exploration, discussion and potential action relating to suicide prevention and life promotion efforts.

National & Provincial Suicide Prevention and Life Promotion Initiatives:

Government of Canada

National Suicide Prevention Action Plan (2024 to 2027)

National Aboriginal Youth Suicide Prevention Strategy (NAYSPS) Program Framework

Canadian Association for Suicide Prevention

The Case for a National Strategy and Nationwide Hotline

The Canadian Mental Health Association & Centre for Suicide Prevention

CMHA Statement on National Suicide Prevention Action Plan

BC Government

Vision for mental health and addictions care

Improving Suicide Care in BC

A Pathway to Hope. Progress Report

Canadian Association for Suicide Prevention

About Life Promotion

Healthcare Excellence Canada

The Promoting Life Together Collaborative

Thunderbird Partnership Foundation

First Nations Mental Wellness Continuum Framework

Wise Practices

Action Guide for Communities

Changing the narrative through our lived experiences.

Storytelling is perhaps the most effective method of sharing information, a practice passed down by our ancestors for generations to guide each subsequent one. The power of story telling is undeniable and our aim is not only to help saves lives but to help empower others to do the same. The people who have bravely shared their story with us are survivors of a suicide attempt, have overcome suicidal thoughts or have been deeply impacted by a suicide. Their desire is to aid in saving lives and preventing the pain of loss to a suicide.

Through these stories we encourage a greater awareness and understanding in the face of stigma surrounding suicide. Together, we can change the narrative around suicide, offering much-needed compassion that has the potential to save lives.

My Friend Brandon.

Author: Anonymous.

My friend Brandon was a wild child, a boy born in the country, raised on farm fresh food, taught to work hard, and allowed to play even harder. His Mom was friends with my Mom and in the small community we grew up in everyone knew just about everything there was to know about each other. He was blonde, handsome, and usually wailing past you faster than he should have been on a motorized vehicle of some sort hooting and hollering. Brandon was a few years older than me, which meant he was a childhood crush for me, and a hello or a smile from him sent my heart a flutter. He was an all-or-nothing kind of guy.

As we grew older, I watched from a distance as he became more capable at logging work with his family, had girlfriends, and eventually fell in love and had 2 beautiful children. He was the drop everything for a friend in need person you could call at 3 am and he’d be there at your side by 3:05 am ready to help.

One night at a local New Year’s dance in our small community, Brandon was there and didn’t seem his usual self. He was going through some things. I had a slow dance with him and listened to him, reassuring him as best as I could. He drifted off into the crowd that night into a sea of people as we all danced the night away. It was well after midnight when the band stopped, and we all piled into our various rides home and went to sleep that night with music still playing in our heads.

5 am. The phone rings. It’s his Mom calling my mom. Brandon is dead. He was fighting harder than any of us knew and had lost that fight. And now he is gone forever. He decided that night after the dance to end his life, and he was successful.

Broken. The whole town is broken. What about all of the smiles? The hugs? The dancing? We had all gone from 100 to 0 in a matter of hours. Why? He was so strong, so brave, so loving, so handsome, so funny, so… just…everything. Now he was gone. No one knows what to do.

I did. I felt then that I had failed my friend. I was 22 he was only 25. He had been one of my heroes, he was real, he ended as many fights as he started, he got kicked out of class, he built pickup trucks, he opened doors for people, and he gave little kids rides like he did for me when I was younger, on his dirt-bikes. And now, nothing. Gone. Stolen.

I got on a bus a few days later and decided to join my boyfriend who was working out of town and got as far away from the place I grew up in as I could. I moved over 20 hours away for a year. It was the first time I’d been away from all of my friends and family. It was the first time I had lost a friend. It was the first time I had an experience related to suicide. It was a year since he died before I could get the courage to hug his Mom and say how sorry I was. It still upsets me to this day, over 25 years later.

Brandon is still one of my childhood heroes. It still hurts to think of all of the things he will never be, but comforting to have been lucky enough to know and love all of the things he was. Until he wasn’t. To have had, what should never have been, our last dance. Suicide steals from people something you can never get back, you can never replace, and you will probably never heal from. You can learn to live with the pain they gave you, but it doesn’t go away. I wish I had told him all of this while he was alive, instead of sharing it without him after he died. I wish I had gone to his funeral, I wish I was strong enough to stand beside his Mom and hug her while she cried, and I wish he had gotten to see his kids grow up and become amazing people. I bet he wishes that too.

Changing the Narrative: A Man’s Suicide Survival Story.

Author: Logan Rankeillor, a CMHA Vernon employee and suicide survivor.

Let’s Change the Narrative.

I am a middle-aged man dealing with mental illness.

I choose not to conceal this aspect of myself, even if it causes others to avoid and exclude me from their lives. Though it’s painful to realize that some individuals may reject me because of my mental health, they are not the core issue; in fact, they could potentially be part of the solution.

Someone else might throw hurtful insults my way, attempting to crush what is left of my spirit, and while it would be extremely painful, nobody can be as toxic and hurtful as I am to myself. The trolls don’t have the power to affect me so deeply.

I often see the term Fragile Masculinity used as a way to emasculate and minimize the emotions that men feel, though that was not the original intention of the term.

Men!

Let’s reclaim this term and normalize the idea that men can be vulnerable and are indeed emotional beings who sometimes require assistance to manage their feelings. This should not diminish our self-worth, ever.

Repeat after me:

I am a man; I am vulnerable enough to be fragile; and when I am, it’s okay to seek help.

Asking for help is a sign of strength; it empowers one to become more capable of self-help and improves well-being. Concealing emotions prevents others from understanding you, hindering their ability to offer support and their ability to get to know the real you.

Distance yourself from those who cling to the notion that men must always appear strong and stay silent when they are struggling. This harmful stigma is contributing to a significantly higher rate of suicide among men compared to women.

I am still working on myself, a journey that I believe will be lifelong. There was a time when I felt so low that I was willing to die. The most challenging step I took was reaching out for help, a task that shouldn’t have been so difficult. I still hold onto the belief that, as a man, I must always display toughness and strength. I hope to let go of such unrealistic self-expectations.

I have compassion for my brothers worldwide who silently endure suffering, yet I find it challenging to show myself the same level of compassion. Recognizing my care for others, I understand the importance of extending that same care to myself, which is something I need learn to prioritize.

Three years ago, my mental health journey was nearly over; however, I discovered the courage to seek assistance. Fortunately, I received effective support, from CMHA Vernon and the Crisis Line. Thanks to the help they offered, I continue on this journey today and for the foreseeable future.

Strength truly lies in accepting your weaknesses and borrowing strength from others when you feel too weak to carry on.

To all my brothers and sisters around the world.

All of us are fragile and need help; there is no shame in that.

Ultimately, we are only human.

Please follow the guidelines below to wright your story.

Guidelines for Sharing Experiences with Suicide

Please fill out the form Below to submit your story.

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Spread Awareness

On September 10, World Suicide Prevention Day focuses on saving lives, changing the narrative on suicide, and demonstrating solidarity with one another. Please share or repost this message on your social media platforms to raise awareness; there is always hope for healing in the face of suicide. Join individuals worldwide in honoring those we’ve lost, supporting survivors, and encouraging life-saving discussions.

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9-8-8

CMHA Vernon is a proud partner in 9-8-8 Suicide Crisis Helpline.
9-8-8 is a new national helpline for anyone across Canada who is thinking about suicide, or who is worried about someone they know. Call or text 9-8-8 toll-free, anytime for support in English and French. 9-8-8 responders are here to listen and provide help without judgement.

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Suicide Grief Support Group

Coping with a loss to suicide can be overwhelming, leading to a wide variety of emotions and physical symptoms. Our Suicide Grief Support Group provides a safe space to share experiences, address feelings of guilt and anger, navigate family dynamics, and honor the departed. The suicide grief support groups are facilitated by CMHA staff and volunteers who have received specialized training in suicide grief support.

If you are interested in joining our next Suicide Grief Support Group, please get in touch with us by email at [email protected] or, visit the following link for more: cmhavernon.ca/suicide-grief-support/

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Youth Suicide Greif Support Group

Support for suicide loss: Youth Suicide Grief Support Group uses a peer support model to help support individuals grieving a suicide loss, fostering resilience through shared experiences.

If you are interested in joining our next Youth Suicide Grief Support Group, please get in touch with us by email at [email protected] or, visit the following link for more: cmhavernon.ca/youth-wellness-and-education/#youth-services|6

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Twelve a Day

According to the Government of Canada, about 12 individuals lose their lives to suicide daily, with roughly 200 more attempting suicide. Over the next year, an estimated 4,500 Canadians will succumb to suicide, while 73,000 will attempt to take their own lives. It is believed that for each suicide, an average of 10 people are significantly impacted, placing an additional 45,000 individuals per year in one of the most vulnerable suicide risk categories – those who have experienced the loss of a cherished one to suicide. By engaging in compassionate conversation and reaching out to those in need, we can encourage individuals to seek assistance, promote recovery, and instill hope for the future. Let’s work together to reduce these numbers to less than one per day.

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Women

According to the Government of Canada, women attempt suicide up to 3 times more often than men. This stark statistic underscores the urgent need for comprehensive mental health support and intervention strategies tailored specifically for women. It is crucial to understand the underlying factors contributing to this disparity, which may include societal pressures, gender-based violence, economic hardships, and mental health stigma.

Furthermore, it is essential to recognize and address the unique challenges faced by various subgroups within the female population, such as women of color, LGBTQ+ women, and those in rural or underserved areas. By fostering a more inclusive and supportive environment, we can work towards reducing the rate of suicide attempts among women and promoting overall mental well-being for all.

Please join us on World Suicide Prevention Day and send a message of hope and support to the women in our lives and around the world.

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Men.

According to the Government of Canada, Men die from suicide at a rate up to three times higher than women. This alarming statistic highlights the urgent need for targeted mental health interventions and support systems specifically tailored for men. Societal expectations and cultural norms often discourage men from expressing their emotions or seeking help, leading to a dangerous buildup of untreated mental health issues.

Encouraging open conversations about mental health and promoting healing can play a vital role in creating a more supportive environment where men feel empowered to seek the help they need. By fostering a culture of empathy and understanding, we can work towards reducing the rate of suicide among men and improving overall mental well-being for everyone.

Lets change the narrative on suicide.

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Young Canadians.

Suicide is the second highest rate of death for Canadians under the age of 35. This tragic statistic underscores the urgent need for compassionate conversation. It’s important to foster open conversations about mental health and encourage individuals to seek help without stigma or shame. Friends and family members can play a crucial role by being supportive, listening without judgment, and helping those at risk access professional resources when needed.

Additionally, promoting self-care practices, such as regular physical activity, healthy eating, mindfulness, and maintaining social connections, can contribute to overall well-being. By working together, we can create a society where every individual feels valued, supported, and empowered to seek the help they need, ultimately reducing the incidence of suicide and improving the quality of life for all.

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2SLGBTQI+ Youth

Suicide is more frequent among 2SLGBTQI+youth in comparison to their non- LGBTQ peers.

This alarming statistic underscores the urgent need for supportive environments and mental health resources tailored to the unique challenges faced by 2SLGBTQI+ youth. Factors such as discrimination, family rejection, and societal stigma contribute significantly to the mental health struggles of these young individuals. By fostering inclusive communities, promoting acceptance, and providing access to affirming mental health care, we can help mitigate these risks and offer hope and healing to 2SLGBTQI+ youth.

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Talk about Suicide.

Hope, Help & Healing Starts with Compassionate Conversation. Help us change the narrative on suicide and normalize conversation about suicide, it will save lives.

By becoming a safe space where people feel safe to share their struggles, we can break down the barriers of stigma and silence. Every heartfelt discussion has the potential to provide comfort, understanding, and reassurance to someone in need. It’s about listening without judgment, offering support within your abilities, and showing that nobody has to face their darkest moments alone. Together, we can create a community of care where every voice is heard and every life is valued. Let’s be the change we wish to see and inspire hope, one conversation at a time.

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Don’t Hesitate to Seek Support.

If you are facing depression or suicidal thoughts, it’s important to reach out for assistance. Asking for help doesn’t indicate weakness; in fact, it shows courage and strength. Don’t wait, confide in someone you trust or contact the 9-8-8 Suicide Crisis Helpline immediately.

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Create a Safety Plan

When dealing with depression or suicidal thoughts, reach out to family, friends, or professionals for support. Establish a safety plan with warning signs, coping strategies, and emergency contacts. Engage in activities that bring joy and consider joining a support group for understanding and community. Be patient with yourself, seek help, and remember your mental health is important.

Download Our Safety Plan Template Here

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Build a Support network.

Reach out to trustworthy individuals for support with depression or suicidal thoughts. Join support groups for connection and mutual encouragement. Prioritize yourself with soothing activities every day; Physical activity, a balanced diet, and enough sleep are vital for mental well-being. Seeking help is a sign of strength, leading to meaningful connections and resources for a brighter future.

To help build and envision your support network please download our Safety Plan Template here.

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Use Your Support network.

Reach out to loved ones or professionals about struggles with depression or suicidal thoughts. Create a safety plan and surround yourself with support. Engage in activities that bring joy, practice mindfulness, and consider therapy. Be patient and celebrate progress.

To help build and envision your support network please download our Safety Plan Template here.

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Risk Assessment: Investigate

Investigate the level of suicidal intent by asking:

• What type of thoughts are you experiencing?
• How long have these thoughts been present?
• How frequently do these thoughts occur?

If the risk is high, provide immediate safety measures, contact emergency services, and seek professional assistance. For concerns of a lesser but significant nature, encourage seeking support. Collaborate on creating a safety plan and emphasize empathy and the availability of support resources.

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Assess the person’s intent to act.

Assess the urgency of suicidal intent by asking about the likelihood of acting on a plan within 24-48 hours. Ask them to rate the likelihood on a scale of 1 to 10. 1 = very unlikely and 10 = certain.

Offer immediate safety if the risk is high, contact emergency services, and seek professional help. Encourage seeking support for lower but serious intent. Create a safety plan together and emphasize empathy and available help.

Determine self- harm vs suicidality

“To differentiate self-harm from suicidal behaviour, ask about their intentions. Was the behaviour (e.g., cutting, burning) done to end the person’s life, to gain relief from emotional distress or to overcome a feeling of numbness?”

Source: CAMH https://www.camh.ca/en/professionals/treating-conditions-and-disorders/suicide-risk/suicide—detecting-and-assessing-suicidality”

It’s crucial to approach these questions with empathy and without judgment. Creating a safe and supportive environment can encourage honest and open communication. Additionally, understanding the underlying reasons for self-harm can help in identifying the most appropriate support and interventions.

Once the intentions are identified, it’s important to offer resources and support. This may include connecting the individual with mental health professionals, providing information about coping strategies, and encouraging the development of a strong support network of friends and family. Self-harm is often a sign of deeper emotional issues that need to be addressed, so ongoing care and compassion are essential in helping the person navigate their feelings and find healthier ways to cope.

Remember, the goal is to help the individual feel heard, supported, and understood, ultimately guiding them towards healing and recovery.

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Safe Language: Attempt

When discussing suicide:

Use: “Suicide attempt.”

Avoid: “Failed attempt.”

Describing an unsuccessful attempt may cause the survivor to feel even more defeated.

Instead, focus on the fact that they survived and the opportunity for recovery and support. Language is powerful, and using compassionate and understanding terms can make a significant difference in someone’s healing journey.

By being mindful of our language, we can create a more supportive and empathetic environment for those affected by suicide.

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Safe Language: Suicide

When discussing suicide:

Use: “Died by suicide, or suicide.”

Avoid: “Completed Suicide.”

Describing a completed suicide may make someone at risk of suicide feel incomplete.

Instead, focus on the fact that they survived and the opportunity for recovery and support. Language is powerful, and using compassionate and understanding terms can make a significant difference in someone’s healing journey.

By being mindful of our language, we can create a more supportive and empathetic environment for those affected by suicide.

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Safe Language: Died

When discussing suicide:

Use: “Died by suicide, or suicide.”

Avoid: “Committed Suicide.”

Saying, committed suicide suggest a crime and may make a person feel like a criminal for having suicidal thoughts.

Instead, focus on the fact that they survived and the opportunity for recovery and support. Language is powerful, and using compassionate and understanding terms can make a significant difference in someone’s healing journey.

By being mindful of our language, we can create a more supportive and empathetic environment for those affected by suicide.

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Safe Language: Unsuccessful

When discussing suicide:

Use: “Suicide attempt.”

Avoid: “Unsuccessful attempt.”

Saying, unsuccessful attempt suggests that someone may be successful with suicide.

Instead, focus on the fact that they have successfully survived and the opportunity for recovery and support. Language is powerful, and using compassionate and understanding terms can make a significant difference in someone’s healing journey.

By being mindful of our language, we can create a more supportive and empathetic environment for those affected by suicide.

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Dispelling Myths: Dissipate

There are numerous misconceptions about suicide that contribute to the stigma associated with the topic. By dispelling myths and fostering understanding and empathy, we can reduce stigma and help save lives.

Myths include the idea that talking about suicide plants the idea, that it’s for attention, and that suicidal individuals cannot be helped. Mental health issues often, but not always underlie suicidal behavior, so promoting awareness and providing support is vital.

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Dispelling Myths: Mental Health

There are numerous misconceptions about suicide that contribute to the stigma associated with the topic. By dispelling myths and fostering understanding and empathy, we can reduce stigma and help save lives.

Myths include the idea that talking about suicide plants the idea, that it’s for attention, and that suicidal individuals cannot be helped. Mental health issues often, but not always underlie suicidal behavior, so promoting awareness and providing support is vital.

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Dispelling Myths: Not Easy

There are numerous misconceptions about suicide that contribute to the stigma associated with the topic. By dispelling myths and fostering understanding and empathy, we can reduce stigma and help save lives.

Myths include the idea that talking about suicide plants the idea, that it’s for attention, and that suicidal individuals cannot be helped. Mental health issues often, but not always underlie suicidal behavior, so promoting awareness and providing support is vital.

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Dispelling Myths: Talking

There are numerous misconceptions about suicide that contribute to the stigma associated with the topic. By dispelling myths and fostering understanding and empathy, we can reduce stigma and help save lives.

Myths include the idea that talking about suicide plants the idea, that it’s for attention, and that suicidal individuals cannot be helped. Mental health issues often, but not always underlie suicidal behavior, so promoting awareness and providing support is vital.

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Dispelling Myths: Warning Signs.

There are numerous misconceptions about suicide that contribute to the stigma associated with the topic. By dispelling myths and fostering understanding and empathy, we can reduce stigma and help save lives.

Myths include the idea that talking about suicide plants the idea, that it’s for attention, and that suicidal individuals cannot be helped. Mental health issues often, but not always underlie suicidal behavior, so promoting awareness and providing support is vital.

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Safety Planning Tool Kit

To provide support, a suicide safety plan can be a valuable tool to ensure someone’s safety during crisis situations. Please refer to the guidelines by the Centre for Suicide Prevention to create your personalized plan.

For a quicker start, feel free to download our template designed for easy access to life-saving information.

Additionally, we offer a pocket-sized plan that can be printed, filled out, folded into three sections, and conveniently kept in your wallet or purse.

If you prefer a professionally printed pocket version, you can reach out to us for the printing directions or talk to the professional printer we utilized for this purpose. Contact us for more information:

[email protected]

Centre for Suicide Prevention: guideline for creating your own safety plan.

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Download our Safety Plan Template

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Suicide Statistics 

The Interior Health region, which includes the North Okanagan, has one of the highest suicide rates in B.C. According to the BC Coroners Services 131 people from the Interior Health region died by suicide in 2018. The death of one individual can be felt throughout the community and impact many others.

*Stats may be underreported due to many factors.

Twelve a Day

Every day, approximately 12 Canadians die by suicide, while 200 more attempt to take their own life. Often guilt, fear and shame keep many individuals in the shadows when talking about mental health challenges, including suicide.

Young Canadians.

Suicide is the second leading cause of death for Canadians under the age of 35. This tragic statistic underscores the urgent need for compassionate conversation. It’s important to foster open conversations about mental health and encourage individuals to seek help without stigma or shame. Friends and family members can play a crucial role by being supportive, listening without judgment, and helping loved ones access professional resources when needed.

Additionally, promoting self-care practices, such as regular physical activity, healthy eating, mindfulness, and maintaining social connections, can contribute to overall well-being. By working together, we can create a society where every individual feels valued, supported, and empowered to seek the help they need, ultimately reducing the incidence of suicide and improving the quality of life for all.

Men.

According to the Government of Canada, Men die from suicide at a rate up to three times higher than women. This alarming statistic highlights the urgent need for targeted mental health interventions and support systems specifically tailored for men. Societal expectations and cultural norms often discourage men from expressing their emotions or seeking help, leading to a dangerous buildup of untreated mental health issues.

Encouraging open conversations about mental health and promoting emotional resilience can play a vital role in creating a more supportive environment where men feel empowered to seek the help they need. By fostering a culture of empathy and understanding, we can work towards reducing the rate of suicide among men and improving overall mental well-being for everyone.

Women.

According to the Government of Canada, women attempt suicide up to 3 times more often than men. This stark statistic underscores the urgent need for comprehensive mental health support and intervention strategies tailored specifically for women. It is crucial to understand the underlying factors contributing to this disparity, which may include societal pressures, gender-based violence, economic hardships, and mental health stigma.

Furthermore, it is essential to recognize and address the unique challenges faced by various subgroups within the female population, such as women of color, LGBTQ+ women, and those in rural or underserved areas. By fostering a more inclusive and supportive environment, we can work towards reducing the rate of suicide attempts among women and promoting overall mental well-being for all.

Please join us on World Suicide Prevention Day and send a message of hope and support to the women in our lives and around the world.

Talk About Suicide.

Hope, help & healing starts with compassionate conversation. Help us change the narrative on suicide and normalize conversation about suicide.

It will save lives.

By becoming a safe space where people feel safe to share their struggles, we can break down the barriers of stigma and silence. Every heartfelt discussion has the potential to provide comfort, understanding, and reassurance to someone in need. It’s about listening without judgment, offering support within your abilities, and showing that nobody has to face their darkest moments alone. Together, we can create a community of care where every voice is heard and every life is valued. Let’s be the change we wish to see and inspire hope, one conversation at a time.

Why We Are Changing the Narrative on Suicide.

More than one in ten individuals have contemplated suicide at some point in their lives. In a large group, there are numerous individuals who understand the turmoil of contemplating the taking of their own life.

Nearly one in five people have formulated a plan for suicide, so making a safety plan crucial at this stage. If you are contemplating suicide, please seek assistance and access our Safety Plan Template Here.

An estimated 1,271,757 Canadians currently alive have survived suicide attempts. By engaging in empathetic discussions, we can prevent a significant number of suicide attempts and promote healing instead.

Our Indigenous relations, our fellow humans.

Indigenous communities in Canada are considered among the most at risk for of suicide populations in the country.. The lasting effects of colonialism have inflicted significant harm, persisting in various ways to this day. Indigenous communities are forced to bear this legacy, leading some to tragically end their lives rather than endure ongoing systemic injustices and societal issues.

The Royal Commission on Aboriginal Peoples (RCAP) 1995 said,  “… the commission emphasized that other factors had greater bearing on Indigenous suicides, including (1) situational (e.g., disruptions of family life experienced as a result of enforced attendance at boarding schools, adoption, and fly-out hospitalizations), (2) socioeconomic (e.g., poverty, low levels of education, limited employment opportunities, inadequate housing, and deficiencies in sanitation and water quality), and (3) cultural stress (e.g., loss of land and control over living conditions, suppression of belief systems and spirituality, weakening of social and political institutions, and racial discrimination).”

However, amidst these overwhelming challenges to Indigenous Peoples’ existence, there is also a profound strength and resilience within Indigenous communities. Efforts to revitalize traditional languages, cultural practices, and autonomous governance systems are gaining momentum. Indigenous Peoples’ critical contributions to responsible ecosystems management which are essential in this era of climate change. Examples include Syilx Okanagan led return of the Okanagan Salmon.  Organizations and activists are earnestly advocating for the rights and freedoms of Indigenous peoples. Collaborative initiatives between Indigenous and non-Indigenous communities are paving the way for reconciliation and mutual understanding.

The journey towards healing and justice is ongoing, but the unwavering spirit of Indigenous peoples continues to awe and embolden us to affirm our unity with Indigenous Peoples for a brighter and more equitable future.  We hasten the Government of Canada to act on The Truth and Reconciliation (TRC) Commission of Canada’s Calls to Action (2015).

Indigenous Suicide Intervention Resources.

Aboriginal Child and Family Services – Vernon: 250-549-5533

KUU-US Crisis Lines:

Adult/Elder Line: 250-723-4050

Child/Youth Line: 250-723-2040

BC Wide Toll Free: 1-800-KUU-US17 (1-800-588-8717)

Métis Crisis Line: 1-833-MétisBC (1-833-638-4722)

The Indian Residential School Survivors Society Crisis line: 1 (800) 721-0066

Kuu-us Crisis Line Society: 1 800 588 8717 (KUU-US17) 24/7

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Jeffrey Ansloos, PhD in “Rethinking Indigenous Suicide, 2018″ said, 

“This is a bold and necessary call in Indigenous suicide and prevention research–for us to become emboldened in our critical concern for addressing the complex forms of violence which make life unlivable, and to implicate our life in the pursuit of the type of justice that nourishes Indigenous life.”

“The Truth and Reconciliation (TRC) Commission of Canada’s Calls to Action (2015) specifically address the need for national data on suicide and called for governments to develop mechanisms and indicators to address Indigenous health disparities, including suicide. To date, both calls to action on suicide have not been acted on (CBC, 2018; See Table 1).”

Shifting perspectives on what the land is.

“Land is a determinant of health for Indigenous peoples.”

Retrieved Aug 22, 2024 from  https://www.thelancet.com/journals/lanplh/article/PIIS2542-5196(23)00079-7/fulltext

In Okanagan the land is called,” tmxʷulaxʷ = Mother Earth

” The Syilx Okanagan concept of land encompasses more than the physical geography of place, it includes the spiritual connections of everything living on and within it.” Retrieved from on Aug 22, 2024: https://syilx.org/natural-resources/land/

Sacred Mother Earth in Blackfoot its called “Na to wa siin Na twiisk kaa koo.” Retrieved from Siksika Elder: Robin BigSnake Aug 22, 2024

Due to stigma surrounding suicide, many people do not reach out for help when they need it most.

That is why it is important to look out for warning signs and symptoms and act accordingly. Never be afraid to ask someone if they are thinking about suicide.  

Warning Signs

• Changes in weight or appetite
• Changes in mood 
• Changes in sleeping patterns 
• Changes in appearance 
• Anxiety 
• Talking about death and dying 
• Disengagement from people and activities that once brought joy 
• Hopelessness 
• Helplessness 

Tips on Starting the Conversation 

Know your resources: Be familiar with the local resources in your community. This can include mental health organizations, crisis lines or support groups. Never assume you know what resources work best. Everyone’s story is different. Go into the conversation with these resources in hand.  

Create a safe environment: If possible, try to find a private and comfortable space. Take cues from the person on physical proximity and eye contact. Ask them to sit down if it makes them comfortable. Ask if they want something to help comfort them such as a hot cup of tea. Remove all distractions such as your phone or computer.

Ask open-ended questions: Asking open-ended questions can get the conversation going and allows them to speak more openly about their story.  

Practice active listening and empathy: Refrain from problem-solving for them. Let the individual be at the center of their wellbeing journey. Show them they are being heard by using verbal and non-verbal communication such as nodding your head or saying, “uh huh”. Refrain from trying to look for the positive. Instead focus on their feelings. You can say things like “that sounds like it was really hard for you” or “it sounds like you are upset because…” 

Tips on Asking About Suicide 

Ask directly: Asking the person about suicide will give them the chance to talk about how they are feeling. Avoid asking leading or judgmental questions such as “you aren’t really going to kill yourself, are you?”. Asking directly shows you are comfortable with discussing suicide and can result in less confusion. Using words like “hurting yourself” or “harming yourself” can be interpreted as self-harm or minimize what they are feeling. Statements you can say include “are you thinking about suicide?” or “people who feel like that sometimes are thinking about suicide. Are you having thoughts of suicide?”

Be there for the individual: Give them time to respond. This may have been the first time someone asked them about suicide. Lean into the conversation and show that you care. Do not commit to anything you are not willing or able to do. Do not make any promises about the future. Do not promise to keep it a secret.  

Keep them safe: Ask them if they have a plan for suicide; and if so, work on ways to dismantle that plan. It is important to find out a few things to make sure they are safe for the moment. This includes asking if they have already done something to try and kill themselves, if they have a specific plan and details of that plan and work on ways to disable it. This may include taking them to the hospital or calling the police for a wellness check.  

Be the bridge: It is not your responsibility to solve their problems. Helping someone with thoughts of suicide often includes connecting them with supports that can help. This can be a safety net for times when they find themselves in a crisis. It also ensures you do not get burnt out. Ask them if there are any resources they would like to explore or if they already have some. One way to start is to help develop a safety plan. This can include them identifying ways they can keep safe, who to contact when they are in a crisis and always make sure to include a 24/7 resource. Remember to let them be at the center of their wellbeing.  

Follow up: After you have connected the individual to resources connect with them to see how they are doing. Send a text message or call to see how they are doing. Checking in with them shows them you are there to support them when they need it.

Educate yourself: Suicide is preventable. Education is an essential preventative measure. Many individuals might not recognize symptoms of suicide or know what to do when in a crisis. Help create a suicide safer community by educating yourself on suicide prevention and awareness, so you are ready to have the conversation with someone.

The Canadian Mental Health Association – Vernon & District offers a variety of workshops on suicide prevention and awareness. Contact us at 250-542-3114 or [email protected] for more information. 

Ways to Help

• Talk to family and friends about suicide
• Don’t be afraid to ask someone if they are thinking about suicide 
• Educate yourself on suicide prevention and awareness 
• Donate to local organizations, such as the Interior Crisis Line  
• Talk to mental health organizations on how to get involved 
• Help reduce the stigma by starting a conversation about suicide prevention with family and friends 
• Share credible resources on social media  
• Familiarize yourself with local resources  
• Volunteer for the Crisis Line: Click Here.

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Crisis Lines: 

National Suicide Crisis Help Line: Call or Text 9-8-8 (24-7 English and French) 

Counselling/Support: 

Child and Family Services – Vernon: 250-549-5404 

Mental Health and Substance Use Services – Vernon: 250-549-5737 

Vernon Family Resource Centre: 250-545-3390 

Vernon & District Immigrant & Community Services Society: (250) 542-4177

CMHA’s Suicide Grief Support Group 

Immediate Support/Walk-in:  

Vernon Community Response Team: 250-260-7893 

Vernon Jubilee Hospital: (250) 545-2211 

Indigenous: 

Aboriginal Child and Family Services – Vernon: 250-549-5533

KUU-US Crisis Lines:

Adult/Elder Line: 250-723-4050

Child/Youth Line: 250-723-2040

BC Wide Toll Free: 1-800-KUU-US17 (1-800-588-8717)

Métis Crisis Line: 1-833-MétisBC (1-833-638-4722)

The Indian Residential School Survivors Society Crisis line: 1 (800) 721-0066

Kuu-us Crisis Line Society: 1 800 588 8717 (KUU-US17) 24/7

LGBTQ+: 

The Lifeline Canada

Trans Life Line

CMHA’s Trans Peer Support Group

Survivor Support:

Suicide Support Group: [email protected] 

Okanagan Suicide Awareness Society – Kelowna: 250-300-7990

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Data Source: CASP, Canadian Association for Suicide Prevention.

Click here for more and access to the CASP WSPD Tool Kit

The following is a list of National and BC Suicide Prevention and Life Promotion Initiatives. It is not a comprehensive list, and was compiled as a resource for exploration, discussion and potential action relating to suicide prevention and life promotion efforts.

National & Provincial Suicide Prevention and Life Promotion Initiatives:

Government of Canada

National Suicide Prevention Action Plan (2024 to 2027)

National Aboriginal Youth Suicide Prevention Strategy (NAYSPS) Program Framework

Canadian Association for Suicide Prevention

The Case for a National Strategy and Nationwide Hotline

The Canadian Mental Health Association & Centre for Suicide Prevention

CMHA Statement on National Suicide Prevention Action Plan

BC Government

Vision for mental health and addictions care

Improving Suicide Care in BC

A Pathway to Hope. Progress Report

Canadian Association for Suicide Prevention

About Life Promotion

Healthcare Excellence Canada

The Promoting Life Together Collaborative

Thunderbird Partnership Foundation

First Nations Mental Wellness Continuum Framework

Wise Practices

Action Guide for Communities

Changing the narrative through our lived experiences.

Storytelling is perhaps the most effective method of sharing information, a practice passed down by our ancestors for generations to guide each subsequent one. The power of story telling is undeniable and our aim is not only to help saves lives but to help empower others to do the same. The people who have bravely shared their story with us are survivors of a suicide attempt, have overcome suicidal thoughts or have been deeply impacted by a suicide. Their desire is to aid in saving lives and preventing the pain of loss to a suicide.

Through these stories we encourage a greater awareness and understanding in the face of stigma surrounding suicide. Together, we can change the narrative around suicide, offering much-needed compassion that has the potential to save lives.

My Friend Brandon.

Author: Anonymous.

My friend Brandon was a wild child, a boy born in the country, raised on farm fresh food, taught to work hard, and allowed to play even harder. His Mom was friends with my Mom and in the small community we grew up in everyone knew just about everything there was to know about each other. He was blonde, handsome, and usually wailing past you faster than he should have been on a motorized vehicle of some sort hooting and hollering. Brandon was a few years older than me, which meant he was a childhood crush for me, and a hello or a smile from him sent my heart a flutter. He was an all-or-nothing kind of guy.

As we grew older, I watched from a distance as he became more capable at logging work with his family, had girlfriends, and eventually fell in love and had 2 beautiful children. He was the drop everything for a friend in need person you could call at 3 am and he’d be there at your side by 3:05 am ready to help.

One night at a local New Year’s dance in our small community, Brandon was there and didn’t seem his usual self. He was going through some things. I had a slow dance with him and listened to him, reassuring him as best as I could. He drifted off into the crowd that night into a sea of people as we all danced the night away. It was well after midnight when the band stopped, and we all piled into our various rides home and went to sleep that night with music still playing in our heads.

5 am. The phone rings. It’s his Mom calling my mom. Brandon is dead. He was fighting harder than any of us knew and had lost that fight. And now he is gone forever. He decided that night after the dance to end his life, and he was successful.

Broken. The whole town is broken. What about all of the smiles? The hugs? The dancing? We had all gone from 100 to 0 in a matter of hours. Why? He was so strong, so brave, so loving, so handsome, so funny, so… just…everything. Now he was gone. No one knows what to do.

I did. I felt then that I had failed my friend. I was 22 he was only 25. He had been one of my heroes, he was real, he ended as many fights as he started, he got kicked out of class, he built pickup trucks, he opened doors for people, and he gave little kids rides like he did for me when I was younger, on his dirt-bikes. And now, nothing. Gone. Stolen.

I got on a bus a few days later and decided to join my boyfriend who was working out of town and got as far away from the place I grew up in as I could. I moved over 20 hours away for a year. It was the first time I’d been away from all of my friends and family. It was the first time I had lost a friend. It was the first time I had an experience related to suicide. It was a year since he died before I could get the courage to hug his Mom and say how sorry I was. It still upsets me to this day, over 25 years later.

Brandon is still one of my childhood heroes. It still hurts to think of all of the things he will never be, but comforting to have been lucky enough to know and love all of the things he was. Until he wasn’t. To have had, what should never have been, our last dance. Suicide steals from people something you can never get back, you can never replace, and you will probably never heal from. You can learn to live with the pain they gave you, but it doesn’t go away. I wish I had told him all of this while he was alive, instead of sharing it without him after he died. I wish I had gone to his funeral, I wish I was strong enough to stand beside his Mom and hug her while she cried, and I wish he had gotten to see his kids grow up and become amazing people. I bet he wishes that too.

Changing the Narrative: A Man’s Suicide Survival Story.

Author: Logan Rankeillor, a CMHA Vernon employee and suicide survivor.

Let’s Change the Narrative.

I am a middle-aged man dealing with mental illness.

I choose not to conceal this aspect of myself, even if it causes others to avoid and exclude me from their lives. Though it’s painful to realize that some individuals may reject me because of my mental health, they are not the core issue; in fact, they could potentially be part of the solution.

Someone else might throw hurtful insults my way, attempting to crush what is left of my spirit, and while it would be extremely painful, nobody can be as toxic and hurtful as I am to myself. The trolls don’t have the power to affect me so deeply.

I often see the term Fragile Masculinity used as a way to emasculate and minimize the emotions that men feel, though that was not the original intention of the term.

Men!

Let’s reclaim this term and normalize the idea that men can be vulnerable and are indeed emotional beings who sometimes require assistance to manage their feelings. This should not diminish our self-worth, ever.

Repeat after me:

I am a man; I am vulnerable enough to be fragile; and when I am, it’s okay to seek help.

Asking for help is a sign of strength; it empowers one to become more capable of self-help and improves well-being. Concealing emotions prevents others from understanding you, hindering their ability to offer support and their ability to get to know the real you.

Distance yourself from those who cling to the notion that men must always appear strong and stay silent when they are struggling. This harmful stigma is contributing to a significantly higher rate of suicide among men compared to women.

I am still working on myself, a journey that I believe will be lifelong. There was a time when I felt so low that I was willing to die. The most challenging step I took was reaching out for help, a task that shouldn’t have been so difficult. I still hold onto the belief that, as a man, I must always display toughness and strength. I hope to let go of such unrealistic self-expectations.

I have compassion for my brothers worldwide who silently endure suffering, yet I find it challenging to show myself the same level of compassion. Recognizing my care for others, I understand the importance of extending that same care to myself, which is something I need learn to prioritize.

Three years ago, my mental health journey was nearly over; however, I discovered the courage to seek assistance. Fortunately, I received effective support, from CMHA Vernon and the Crisis Line. Thanks to the help they offered, I continue on this journey today and for the foreseeable future.

Strength truly lies in accepting your weaknesses and borrowing strength from others when you feel too weak to carry on.

To all my brothers and sisters around the world.

All of us are fragile and need help; there is no shame in that.

Ultimately, we are only human.

Please follow the guidelines below to wright your story.

Guidelines for Sharing Experiences with Suicide

Please fill out the form Below to submit your story.

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On September 10, World Suicide Prevention Day focuses on saving lives, changing the narrative on suicide, and demonstrating solidarity with one another. Please share or repost this message on your social media platforms to raise awareness; there is always hope for healing in the face of suicide. Join individuals worldwide in honoring those we’ve lost, supporting survivors, and encouraging life-saving discussions.

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9-8-8

CMHA Vernon is a proud partner in 9-8-8 Suicide Crisis Helpline.
9-8-8 is a new national helpline for anyone across Canada who is thinking about suicide, or who is worried about someone they know. Call or text 9-8-8 toll-free, anytime for support in English and French. 9-8-8 responders are here to listen and provide help without judgement.

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Suicide Grief Support Group

Coping with a loss to suicide can be overwhelming, leading to a wide variety of emotions and physical symptoms. Our Suicide Grief Support Group provides a safe space to share experiences, address feelings of guilt and anger, navigate family dynamics, and honor the departed. The suicide grief support groups are facilitated by CMHA staff and volunteers who have received specialized training in suicide grief support.

If you are interested in joining our next Suicide Grief Support Group, please get in touch with us by email at [email protected] or, visit the following link for more: cmhavernon.ca/suicide-grief-support/

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Youth Suicide Greif Support Group

Support for suicide loss: Youth Suicide Grief Support Group uses a peer support model to help support individuals grieving a suicide loss, fostering resilience through shared experiences.

If you are interested in joining our next Youth Suicide Grief Support Group, please get in touch with us by email at [email protected] or, visit the following link for more: cmhavernon.ca/youth-wellness-and-education/#youth-services|6

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Twelve a Day

According to the Government of Canada, about 12 individuals lose their lives to suicide daily, with roughly 200 more attempting suicide. Over the next year, an estimated 4,500 Canadians will succumb to suicide, while 73,000 will attempt to take their own lives. It is believed that for each suicide, an average of 10 people are significantly impacted, placing an additional 45,000 individuals per year in one of the most vulnerable suicide risk categories – those who have experienced the loss of a cherished one to suicide. By engaging in compassionate conversation and reaching out to those in need, we can encourage individuals to seek assistance, promote recovery, and instill hope for the future. Let’s work together to reduce these numbers to less than one per day.

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Women

According to the Government of Canada, women attempt suicide up to 3 times more often than men. This stark statistic underscores the urgent need for comprehensive mental health support and intervention strategies tailored specifically for women. It is crucial to understand the underlying factors contributing to this disparity, which may include societal pressures, gender-based violence, economic hardships, and mental health stigma.

Furthermore, it is essential to recognize and address the unique challenges faced by various subgroups within the female population, such as women of color, LGBTQ+ women, and those in rural or underserved areas. By fostering a more inclusive and supportive environment, we can work towards reducing the rate of suicide attempts among women and promoting overall mental well-being for all.

Please join us on World Suicide Prevention Day and send a message of hope and support to the women in our lives and around the world.

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Men.

According to the Government of Canada, Men die from suicide at a rate up to three times higher than women. This alarming statistic highlights the urgent need for targeted mental health interventions and support systems specifically tailored for men. Societal expectations and cultural norms often discourage men from expressing their emotions or seeking help, leading to a dangerous buildup of untreated mental health issues.

Encouraging open conversations about mental health and promoting healing can play a vital role in creating a more supportive environment where men feel empowered to seek the help they need. By fostering a culture of empathy and understanding, we can work towards reducing the rate of suicide among men and improving overall mental well-being for everyone.

Lets change the narrative on suicide.

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Young Canadians.

Suicide is the second highest rate of death for Canadians under the age of 35. This tragic statistic underscores the urgent need for compassionate conversation. It’s important to foster open conversations about mental health and encourage individuals to seek help without stigma or shame. Friends and family members can play a crucial role by being supportive, listening without judgment, and helping those at risk access professional resources when needed.

Additionally, promoting self-care practices, such as regular physical activity, healthy eating, mindfulness, and maintaining social connections, can contribute to overall well-being. By working together, we can create a society where every individual feels valued, supported, and empowered to seek the help they need, ultimately reducing the incidence of suicide and improving the quality of life for all.

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2SLGBTQI+ Youth

Suicide is more frequent among 2SLGBTQI+youth in comparison to their non- LGBTQ peers.

This alarming statistic underscores the urgent need for supportive environments and mental health resources tailored to the unique challenges faced by 2SLGBTQI+ youth. Factors such as discrimination, family rejection, and societal stigma contribute significantly to the mental health struggles of these young individuals. By fostering inclusive communities, promoting acceptance, and providing access to affirming mental health care, we can help mitigate these risks and offer hope and healing to 2SLGBTQI+ youth.

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Talk about Suicide.

Hope, Help & Healing Starts with Compassionate Conversation. Help us change the narrative on suicide and normalize conversation about suicide, it will save lives.

By becoming a safe space where people feel safe to share their struggles, we can break down the barriers of stigma and silence. Every heartfelt discussion has the potential to provide comfort, understanding, and reassurance to someone in need. It’s about listening without judgment, offering support within your abilities, and showing that nobody has to face their darkest moments alone. Together, we can create a community of care where every voice is heard and every life is valued. Let’s be the change we wish to see and inspire hope, one conversation at a time.

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Don’t Hesitate to Seek Support.

If you are facing depression or suicidal thoughts, it’s important to reach out for assistance. Asking for help doesn’t indicate weakness; in fact, it shows courage and strength. Don’t wait, confide in someone you trust or contact the 9-8-8 Suicide Crisis Helpline immediately.

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Create a Safety Plan

When dealing with depression or suicidal thoughts, reach out to family, friends, or professionals for support. Establish a safety plan with warning signs, coping strategies, and emergency contacts. Engage in activities that bring joy and consider joining a support group for understanding and community. Be patient with yourself, seek help, and remember your mental health is important.

Download Our Safety Plan Template Here

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Build a Support network.

Reach out to trustworthy individuals for support with depression or suicidal thoughts. Join support groups for connection and mutual encouragement. Prioritize yourself with soothing activities every day; Physical activity, a balanced diet, and enough sleep are vital for mental well-being. Seeking help is a sign of strength, leading to meaningful connections and resources for a brighter future.

To help build and envision your support network please download our Safety Plan Template here.

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Use Your Support network.

Reach out to loved ones or professionals about struggles with depression or suicidal thoughts. Create a safety plan and surround yourself with support. Engage in activities that bring joy, practice mindfulness, and consider therapy. Be patient and celebrate progress.

To help build and envision your support network please download our Safety Plan Template here.

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Risk Assessment: Investigate

Investigate the level of suicidal intent by asking:

• What type of thoughts are you experiencing?
• How long have these thoughts been present?
• How frequently do these thoughts occur?

If the risk is high, provide immediate safety measures, contact emergency services, and seek professional assistance. For concerns of a lesser but significant nature, encourage seeking support. Collaborate on creating a safety plan and emphasize empathy and the availability of support resources.

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Assess the person’s intent to act.

Assess the urgency of suicidal intent by asking about the likelihood of acting on a plan within 24-48 hours. Ask them to rate the likelihood on a scale of 1 to 10. 1 = very unlikely and 10 = certain.

Offer immediate safety if the risk is high, contact emergency services, and seek professional help. Encourage seeking support for lower but serious intent. Create a safety plan together and emphasize empathy and available help.

Determine self- harm vs suicidality

“To differentiate self-harm from suicidal behaviour, ask about their intentions. Was the behaviour (e.g., cutting, burning) done to end the person’s life, to gain relief from emotional distress or to overcome a feeling of numbness?”

Source: CAMH https://www.camh.ca/en/professionals/treating-conditions-and-disorders/suicide-risk/suicide—detecting-and-assessing-suicidality”

It’s crucial to approach these questions with empathy and without judgment. Creating a safe and supportive environment can encourage honest and open communication. Additionally, understanding the underlying reasons for self-harm can help in identifying the most appropriate support and interventions.

Once the intentions are identified, it’s important to offer resources and support. This may include connecting the individual with mental health professionals, providing information about coping strategies, and encouraging the development of a strong support network of friends and family. Self-harm is often a sign of deeper emotional issues that need to be addressed, so ongoing care and compassion are essential in helping the person navigate their feelings and find healthier ways to cope.

Remember, the goal is to help the individual feel heard, supported, and understood, ultimately guiding them towards healing and recovery.

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Safe Language: Attempt

When discussing suicide:

Use: “Suicide attempt.”

Avoid: “Failed attempt.”

Describing an unsuccessful attempt may cause the survivor to feel even more defeated.

Instead, focus on the fact that they survived and the opportunity for recovery and support. Language is powerful, and using compassionate and understanding terms can make a significant difference in someone’s healing journey.

By being mindful of our language, we can create a more supportive and empathetic environment for those affected by suicide.

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Safe Language: Suicide

When discussing suicide:

Use: “Died by suicide, or suicide.”

Avoid: “Completed Suicide.”

Describing a completed suicide may make someone at risk of suicide feel incomplete.

Instead, focus on the fact that they survived and the opportunity for recovery and support. Language is powerful, and using compassionate and understanding terms can make a significant difference in someone’s healing journey.

By being mindful of our language, we can create a more supportive and empathetic environment for those affected by suicide.

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Safe Language: Died

When discussing suicide:

Use: “Died by suicide, or suicide.”

Avoid: “Committed Suicide.”

Saying, committed suicide suggest a crime and may make a person feel like a criminal for having suicidal thoughts.

Instead, focus on the fact that they survived and the opportunity for recovery and support. Language is powerful, and using compassionate and understanding terms can make a significant difference in someone’s healing journey.

By being mindful of our language, we can create a more supportive and empathetic environment for those affected by suicide.

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Safe Language: Unsuccessful

When discussing suicide:

Use: “Suicide attempt.”

Avoid: “Unsuccessful attempt.”

Saying, unsuccessful attempt suggests that someone may be successful with suicide.

Instead, focus on the fact that they have successfully survived and the opportunity for recovery and support. Language is powerful, and using compassionate and understanding terms can make a significant difference in someone’s healing journey.

By being mindful of our language, we can create a more supportive and empathetic environment for those affected by suicide.

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Dispelling Myths: Dissipate

There are numerous misconceptions about suicide that contribute to the stigma associated with the topic. By dispelling myths and fostering understanding and empathy, we can reduce stigma and help save lives.

Myths include the idea that talking about suicide plants the idea, that it’s for attention, and that suicidal individuals cannot be helped. Mental health issues often, but not always underlie suicidal behavior, so promoting awareness and providing support is vital.

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Dispelling Myths: Mental Health

There are numerous misconceptions about suicide that contribute to the stigma associated with the topic. By dispelling myths and fostering understanding and empathy, we can reduce stigma and help save lives.

Myths include the idea that talking about suicide plants the idea, that it’s for attention, and that suicidal individuals cannot be helped. Mental health issues often, but not always underlie suicidal behavior, so promoting awareness and providing support is vital.

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Dispelling Myths: Not Easy

There are numerous misconceptions about suicide that contribute to the stigma associated with the topic. By dispelling myths and fostering understanding and empathy, we can reduce stigma and help save lives.

Myths include the idea that talking about suicide plants the idea, that it’s for attention, and that suicidal individuals cannot be helped. Mental health issues often, but not always underlie suicidal behavior, so promoting awareness and providing support is vital.

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Dispelling Myths: Talking

There are numerous misconceptions about suicide that contribute to the stigma associated with the topic. By dispelling myths and fostering understanding and empathy, we can reduce stigma and help save lives.

Myths include the idea that talking about suicide plants the idea, that it’s for attention, and that suicidal individuals cannot be helped. Mental health issues often, but not always underlie suicidal behavior, so promoting awareness and providing support is vital.

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Dispelling Myths: Warning Signs.

There are numerous misconceptions about suicide that contribute to the stigma associated with the topic. By dispelling myths and fostering understanding and empathy, we can reduce stigma and help save lives.

Myths include the idea that talking about suicide plants the idea, that it’s for attention, and that suicidal individuals cannot be helped. Mental health issues often, but not always underlie suicidal behavior, so promoting awareness and providing support is vital.

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Safety Planning Tool Kit

To provide support, a suicide safety plan can be a valuable tool to ensure someone’s safety during crisis situations. Please refer to the guidelines by the Centre for Suicide Prevention to create your personalized plan.

For a quicker start, feel free to download our template designed for easy access to life-saving information.

Additionally, we offer a pocket-sized plan that can be printed, filled out, folded into three sections, and conveniently kept in your wallet or purse.

If you prefer a professionally printed pocket version, you can reach out to us for the printing directions or talk to the professional printer we utilized for this purpose. Contact us for more information:

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Centre for Suicide Prevention: guideline for creating your own safety plan.

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